Lets talk about external prostate massage -- the best primer for prostate play.
Bums are trending, and for good reason. Anal play has become one of the hottest topics online, and it's no wonder why. Research shows that 37% of women and 43% of men (both gay and straight) have explored anal pleasures. With such a significant interest, it's no surprise that sex toys like prostate massagers are flying off the shelves.
But what if you're just curious about prostate massage and want to start slow? Luckily, external prostate massage can provide incredible sensations without the need for internal stimulation.
What is External Prostate Massage?
External prostate massage involves stimulating the prostate gland from outside the body. But how does it work, and what can you expect from this type of pleasure?
To fully appreciate external prostate massage, it helps to understand a bit about the prostate. This walnut-shaped gland surrounds the urethra, sitting just behind the bladder and in front of the rectum. It's not just a gland but a pleasure powerhouse, producing fluid that nourishes sperm and playing a key role in ejaculation.
Known as the ‘P-Spot,’ the prostate can deliver intense, multiple orgasms similar to the female G-Spot. These orgasms are often longer and more intense than typical penile orgasms, with prostate stimulation producing 12 contractions compared to the 4-8 from penile orgasms.
Internal vs. External Stimulation
Your experience with prostate massage will vary based on your preferences. Some might enjoy internal stimulation, while others prefer external methods.
In addition to providing incredible pleasure, prostate massage can offer health benefits.
Internal Prostate Massage
For many years, internal prostate massage was achieved through manual stimulation with fingers. Today, specialized prostate toys are widely available and highly popular.
Toys like Pulse, Apex, and Prime are praised for their effectiveness in delivering prostate orgasms.
- On Prime: "I was brand new to sex toys for men, and Prime was exactly what I needed. Utterly perfect." – Jacques
- On Apex: "Hits the spot. This toy is an amazing prostate massager. Almost blissful. I especially love the remote." – Dave
- On Pulse: "Unbelievable. Pulse is a MUST HAVE. I ran to leave this review because I was so impressed." – Shaun
While there are other toys like butt plugs that can stimulate the prostate, they must be specifically designed for this purpose. A regular plug or vibrator might not provide the stimulation needed.
External Prostate Massage: A Step-by-Step Guide
If internal prostate stimulation isn't for you, external prostate massage offers a fantastic, non-invasive alternative. This method is ideal for those who prefer a gentler approach or are new to prostate play.
Here's how to explore and enjoy external prostate massage:
1. Locate the Perineum
Start by finding the perineum, also known as the 'taint.' This area is situated between your scrotum and anus. It’s the key to stimulating the prostate externally.
Tip: To locate it, gently press or massage the area between your scrotum and anus. You should be able to feel a sensitive region that is more pronounced than the surrounding area.
2. Identify the Right Spot
When you begin stimulating the perineum, you might feel an urge to urinate. This sensation indicates you're in the right area as your prostate interacts with your bladder's pathways.
Tip: Don’t be concerned about this feeling—it's a normal response. Your body is simply adjusting to the stimulation.
3. Begin the Massage
Start with gentle, slow strokes. Use your fingers or a toy designed for external stimulation.
- Pressure: Begin with light pressure and gradually increase as you become more accustomed to the sensations.
- Rhythm: Experiment with different rhythms and motions to discover what feels best. Some people enjoy steady strokes, while others might prefer varying the speed and intensity.
Tip: Take your time and listen to your body. The goal is to enhance pleasure, not to rush the process.
4. Adjust and Explore
As you get more comfortable, feel free to explore different techniques and pressures. External prostate massage is all about finding what works for you.
Tip: Don’t rush into more intense pressure. Start slowly and build up as you find what provides the most pleasure.
5. Communicate and Enjoy
If you’re exploring external prostate massage with a partner, open communication is key. Discuss what feels good, what doesn’t, and any adjustments that might enhance the experience for both of you.
Tip: Keep the conversation flowing to ensure a positive and pleasurable experience. Being open about your sensations and preferences can enhance intimacy and enjoyment.
Pro Tips for External Prostate Massage
Warm Up First: Before you start, warm up the area with a warm bath or a gentle massage. This helps relax the muscles and enhances sensitivity. Get aroused before really jumping in.
Use Quality Lubricant: Apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to reduce friction and make the experience smoother. Reapply as needed to maintain comfort.
Explore Different Angles: Adjust your hand position to find the most pleasurable angle. Sometimes, a slight change in angle can make a big difference in sensation.
Start Slowly: Begin with light pressure and gentle strokes. Gradually increase the intensity as you become more accustomed to the sensations.
Incorporate Breathwork: Deep, controlled breathing can enhance your experience. Inhale slowly through your nose, hold for a moment, and exhale through your mouth. This not only helps you relax but also intensifies your awareness of the sensations during the massage. Try synchronizing your breath with the rhythm of your strokes for a more immersive experience.
Be Patient: It may take time to discover what works best for you. Give yourself the space to explore and enjoy the process without rushing.
Stay Relaxed: Keep your body relaxed and your mind at ease. Tension can diminish pleasure and make the experience less enjoyable.
Exploring the Pleasures of Prostate Stimulation
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Some prostate massagers have whats called a base perineum massager which helps to stimulate the prostate externally while the vibration and gentle pressure of the product stimulates from the inside.
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